Considering My Companionship 4 U?

In a bit my take on "life." First, why I'm sharing this.

Something over a year after I graduated HS I met my life's love. We hit it off immediately. I was a farm boy from a little Central California family farm in a small town. She was a Hershey Daughter and so "Dutch"! Our relationship was one sided, though. She was the keeper. I was along for the ride. It's with a heart filled with remorse that I look back on our 27 years, 25 married and four dear, beautiful babies. How in the world could I have failed to know how marriage works from before it was my time to marry?

It's my fault. My folks were caring. They were hard working stay at home mom on our little farm and dad gardener and school custodian til he retired. The oldest, I was the VERY Black sheep, always straying always in rebel mode, always turning away from parents.

Later mother informed me of terrible advice she and millions of mothers followed from a serious jerk, Dr. Spock, whose advice was "Never hold and comfort your crying infant, from birth"!!! That trains every baby to mistrust parents, especially mother. Boy! Did I ever NOT trust my mother! Instead, from my earliest I sought female comfort with other girls.

At 11 with a very traumatic event with my father I completely rejected my parents. at HS graduation I fled them ASAP to college, never returning to them as parents again. I broke their dear hearts and live in their pain every moment.

Of course, my dear wife was soon to discover her relationship with her husband was all but satisfying. I was blind to my severe relationship issues until years after her divorce finalized her distrust for me.

I remarried. She was soon to discover the real me. Her own life was a long series of rejections, beginning with her birth mother's. Her death was due in large part to my failure. her heart was broken.

In total, the years I lived alone from leaving my parents were only 3. Three years to discover "Me." No, I did not "know" me at all.

Now, with 7 years apart from my dear late wife, and 7 years to discover "me," it's my first time to enjoy being "me." Lots of those debilitating relationship pains to remind me to look to the art and science of caring and retraining my heart to believe and think selfless love, but this "me" fascinates my curiosity. He's quite nice, actually:-)

Yet, those 42 years of wedded experiences draw my heart strings every moment. The verbal, physical and sensual intercourse each dear lady shared with me are hands on teachers who took my "little" hands and body parts into theirs and nurtured and cared for me more ways than words can reveal. Not only missing their lady parts, more I miss their lady hearts.

Now, in this wild and wonton sexual mayhem we call "online mating." and the equally confusing and relationship-killing feminism domination the media blasts everywhere, my quest to be "me" and discover the lady or even ladies who will love and adore their companionship with me is making prospects for continuing my intimate companionship look confusing and dim.

I need "me" to be growing in every way. To do so requires the elements of feminine intimacy in every part of this completer on the masculine. Just how to make this so is escaping me, for now.

Following this opening remark I attempt to put the current romance matching game into tangible perspective so you can see me a little more clearly. You are most welcome to share thoughts of any kind.

Thank you for taking a moment to share my mind with you. You and your thoughts are valuable to me. so do be inspired to bless me with you . . .

Claude

Essentially, I'm fed up with online relationship seeking sites. Why"

They are OK, except that people with massive databanks of possibilities are mesmerized by the sheer volume of potential lifetime intimate friendships, and where before these databanks existed, when a suitable heart throb crossed one's path, that particular individual was the sole reason to develop that desired companionship.

Now, with millions of people looking and saying they desire a life companion, everyone is falling into a miry pit of over-supply and overwhelming selection.

Ever enter a new gigantic food store when you're starving, only to find that the vast multitude of delicious potential foods is too much to make a choice based on your past companion-palate preferences?

Well . . .

What I want you to know about my take on today's lady who seems like she may be interested in sharing dedicated, mutual-respect companionship with one or more friends whose commitment and adoration for her is for life and her best in every way. She's facing a very tough decision that is more likely to stimmy her rather than enable her to make an informed choice.

Here's my take . . .

A few days ago, it's now April 15, 2017, I thought, "It's been sad how those dear ladies whom I've been acquainted with these years since my wife's passing are deeply afraid of discovering their own hearts and finding that they need to dig deep into their emotional Being to release those accumulated fears about sharing all they are with a loving, caring man whose interest in Living includes every detail that diminishes Life in any way. These ladies, about 8, are what I say is "addicted" to the smooth-talking, proven fake news media, and all the fear mongering this known front for those who control our financial and government bodies use to keep its watchers in unfounded, but ultra "1984" fear mode. Not a single lady of these has the slightest desire to "Look behind the curtain" at the real cause of her fears, that falsified unnatural world of faked events, such as the utterly false "Sandy Hook School Massacre." That covert event was so covered up that no alleged student nor parent nor teacher was discovered by real journalist, yet how many media addicts even "look behind the obvious smoke and mirrors"?

That Sandy Hook staged "event" was found to have well known disaster actors whose realistic staging in the abandoned school building was used by the bankster media to cast more deep fearing on their mesmerized addicts.

Then I searched for any experiences people shared about online social meeting sites for honest, serious people to meet and begin life-long romantic companionships. Early last year I joined a group focused on intimate relationships for people in sincere life styles relative to intimate companionships, but there it was all too apparent these dear people were media addicts and none shared interest in dedicated, mutual respecting life companionships. It was all light wieght, "happy" pseudo intimacy that soon become boring for lack of challenge and depth and variety, even though "variety" is their supposed focus.

I quit after several lady prospects drifted on to men whose happy-go-lucky living left them feeling un-committed and free of responsible, dedicated companionships.

I care not about "marriage." It's a recent facade mandated by banksters. Before 1930, it required no license, and no formal ceremony, but the sincere accountability of family and friends whose community the couples relationship would affect.

I do care deeply for companionship(s) that are dedicated, determined friends whose purpose is to benefit their own individual living, and their community, with tranquil, determined intimate solutions for the need we all share to be with one or more whose lives "Matter" to us. Monogamy is not the issue - determined dedication is the issue. The vows of marriage are set on firm relationship principle, but the online meeting agenda that I find so far is loosely attached to sexual self-gratification and expediency that precludes dedicated, determined life companionship.

If you, lady, have endured my diatribe thus far, then search your heart and mind for that dedicated companionship your woman Being is designed to experience. it is now calling to you to lay down those fear and step up to the womanhood that generates all the benefits of your life purpose and satisfaction with that man who is the husband you deserve, and who you know in the most dependable ways to care for and adore you. That's the purpose of his design, so let him do his life's purpose in your behalf, dear one.

On eHarmony I was signing up and filling out their long, long characteristics profile. Wish I'd made a record, as I finally said "No Way!" to their over-priced subscription, just as I originally did for the equally-overpriced Match.com.

Anyway, I may go back and record the eHarmony profile so it's here. It's OK to see what one says about himself, but the next day his answers will more than likely vary. Profiles are a daily evaluation, at best.

I'll add more here, eventually. Leave comments for desired interaction and for requests. I appreciate all . . .

Claude Armstrong

The profile questions for the other social connect site . . .

This may be more interesting for you to copy it all and paste into a text app save and then make a copy for your own comparison and profile record. Over time, with changes in your thoughts, it can be a fascinating study in "You"!

Relationship status: Widowed

Children: 4

City: Lakewood, Washington

Birth date: February 19 1945 Oakdale, California

Race: White

Spiritual - Religion: Other(This is a sad question in the way that honest seekers really have just one spiritual status - we're Seekers of Fact that cannot change. All religions change. So, I do not identify with any)

Which describes your highest level of education?

With my wide range of interests, I decided that college was a good thing only if focused on my current desires for understanding a given use of the knowledge. I chose electronics in 1964. That turned out to be a side interest that netted me the maintenance position in a large farm coop distribution center covering the lower third of the Northeastern U.S.

The real me is fascinated with the natural soils food growth industry of my roots. That requires no formal education and a lifetime and more of training and research.

What do you do?

Retired Customer & Enterprise services

What's your personal income?(Your matches won't see this)

<$20000

I'm a

· Man

What's your relationship status?

· WIDOWED

Got it. How many times have you been married?

· 2

How many children do you have?

· 4

Where do you live?

· Lakewood, Washington

When were you born?

· FEB 19 1945

What's your ethnicity?

· WHITE

What best describes your religious beliefs or spirituality?

· OTHER

Which describes your highest level of education?

· ASSOCIATES

What do you do?

· Retired from industrial handling and services

· And my own family businesses

What's your personal income?(Your matches won't see this)

· < $20,000

Aside from any children you or a new partner may already have, would you like to start a new family?

· NO, I DON'T WANT (MORE) KIDS

How often do you smoke?

Never: I tried exactly four cigarettes in combat rations in Vietnam and then asked, "Why do people smoke these?"

How often do you drink?

I was raised Quaker - Tee Totaler and adamantly so - Then I grew up. Love the flavors and despise any tipsy sensations

I imbibe for and on special occasions

How tall are you?

6 foot 2 inches

What are you passionate about?

In life companionship, the best companion who interests and encourages his companion to be her best possible individual in al the ways she desires to be.

In my own interests, natural nutrition and exploring all the world I can.

In the Last Analysis, to be considered the true friend of those who loved me with honest desire to make me a better man.

What two or three things do you enjoy doing with your leisure time?

Think of it this way, if you had the day off of work what would you do?

Ha! Like silly Match.com, eHarmony allows WAY too little space for these responses!

Here's all I could get in . . .

With retirement, all time is at my discretion what to do:-) This enabled me to discover myself as never possible before. With the Internet this exploration of me was opened like a world class library with access to all the libraries everywhere, except for private collections I have no funds to pay for, or ones their holder keeps secret - which are many!

The second is like the first - Knowing the life companion I seek. She's "out there" as I share this, but she is an individual woman with much the lady-traits ladies possess and are made from. Knowing these to my best degree so my attention to her is the best and most respectful and caring.

Here's what I left . . .

With retirement, all time is at my discretion what to do:-) This enabled me to discover myself as never possible before.

Third, natural nutrition in companionships creates the most satisfying relationship possible. It provides healthy mental, physical and spiritual states that open Life to the fullest degree for lovers dedicated to each other.

What are the three things you're thankful for?

Try to explore the really awesome things in your life and tell why they're significant

Being selflessly loved by our Creator

Having Life and Being to see and explore Life and Creation

The blessed live companionships I had and look forward to being part of.

I'm looking for someone between the ages of...(Make sure you have at least 6 years between your min and max age range)

55 to 75

How important is your match's age?

Somewhat Important

It's ok to match me with men/women who are...(Select all that apply)

No preference

How important is your match's religion?

Somewhat important

Match me with members who are...(Select all that apply)

Christian, Jewish & Other

My reason to be selective here, not in the prior question is that the systems of ones social circles are the core beliefs one builds companionships on. Companionship that sees least conflict has each member on the same page or deeply interested in the others' core social dependencies. The Christian social system I am comfortable with from my youth forms my core dependency, and Other and Jewish likely fir with me better than others. This is not to say others are automatically excluded, just that they are less likely.

How important is your match's education to you?

Somewhat important - Education? I would prefer that "Any" level of education be the answer I give, but with this it can be construed that I do not care at all about my companion's interests in learning and developing her mental experience. This is vital to the companionship I feel most comfortable in.

Are you open to meeting someone who already has children?

Yes

How far should we search for your matches?

In my country - I am satisfied that my companion may well be living anywhere. But, as a limit to our availability and likely meeting, rather than limit her to close proximity to me, let her be in my country!

Country

How important is the distance of your match?

Somewhat important

The most my matches can smoke is...

Never - I have enjoyed the deepest sensual relationship with a dear friend whose daily one to three cigarettes and her desire to end the dependency on the chemistry of smoked tobacco and paper limited her use of this otherwise nasty habit. Our care for each other was way deeper than those few nasties. That's how good companionship is - far better than a few nasties . . .

The most my matches can drink is...

A few times a week -I'm not going for daily, as this may well open the drunk gate. At most, our health benefits with a few weekly alcohol glasses, and then in pretty sharp limits.

Questions that lead to lasting love

How well does this generally describe you?

7 points total 1 for not at all - 7 as totally

Warm

Clever

Dominant

Outgoing

Quarrelsome

Stable

5 My response here is from being flexible to given issues. Ones I care more about may generate more animated responses, but this all depends on the relationship and understanding we share about each other

Energetic

Predictable

Affectionate

6 -Me? Affectionate? !! I am claiming 6 of the 7 possible as I am way affectionate in the most part. There are times of mood and situation that affect this, so, yes, I am most honest to say I'm less than fully affectionate:-)

Intelligent

6 - Well, my lovers tell me at times I'm too intellectual. OK. But, I try to be "normal."

Attractive

5. I really do not understand what being "attractive" is. So, if I'm attractive for my lovers, then I am "attractive," :-)

Compassionate

5 -I'll go out on a long limb here. My home was not compassionate in the touch-feely sense. No hugs, no open loving witth my parents, no sexual expression, and no open sympathy or empathy from either parent, or my grandparents for each other or us kids. I really struggle to understand compassion and empathy for those I desire these for.

Loyal

7 - Too high? Maybe not. I am overly loyal in the way that I desire my companion to excel with her life. This may be interpreted as being overly possessive, but it is my expression of loyalty in my understanding.

Witty

4 - I can draw fun, light laughs! Really!

Sensitive

Generous

5 -This is harder for me to evaluate. I can seem not at all, and other times too generous. 5? Well, yeah . . .

Sensual

7 -Of all the ways I am, sensual says "Me" most. I love the sensual so deeply that I understand life companionship as the essence of sensuality. This one capacity of people is the most desirable as it provides and requires the best natural health and healing natural sexual interplay is composed of and from. More on this with developing companionship. it is vital in the deepest and highest senses.

Stylish

4 -I'm all for the subsistence land dweller. His outside character is plain, but that is far from his inside Being!!

Athletic

6 -If one is not "athletic," then one is not healthy.

Overweight

2 -if one is overweight, then one in is not aspiring to health

Plain

6 As above

Healthy

6 -I like to think of turning 150 and asking, 'Is it time to be old yet?" My emphatic response? "Never!"

Sexy

6 -My dear friend and lover whose first intimacy with me made her exclaim, "Claude! You're the best lover I ever had!" Says both my love of and practice of sensual respect for my lovers. My companions enjoy even more natural intercourse satisfaction. it's just that -why not?

How happy are you with your physical appearance?

6 - The reason is that my facial hair and natural diet forms the most natural, comfortable and least body odor of any way of living. I can adapt for my companion, but I prefer she does the same natural care and appreciation for her body and appearance.

Every answer brings you closer to meaningful introduction

Give us a glimpse of you . . .

How well does this word generally describe you?

Content

6 Ha! This silly site tells me to slow down! My answers look the same! Well, "Breaking News!" I know myself! This site is geared for kids, I guess!!

Passionate

Caring

Genuine

6 -I'll say "6" as this is closer to my desire to be a "7."

Vivacious

6 Uh . . . They mean . . . ? I think I know what they mean!!!

Wise

5 -Me? "Wise"? Kinda . . .

Bossy

6 Yeah, I know. Mother wore the pants. I take after her . . . She taught by example that when you speak from understanding, it seems "bossy," yet it is with knowledge. I try to speak with knowledge.

Leader

6 -Ditto as "Bossy." Knowledge is key . . .

Irritable

5 -Uhm . . . I seem irritable when I deal with lack of desire to search into the best understanding. Just kick my ass when you feel I'm being irritable. It's welcome!!

Kind

5 -It's to your credit when you dig your spurs into my hide whenever it feels I am un-kind. Really . . .

Aggressive

7 Yep!! But, stick me when it feels too much so . . .

Outspoken

Opinionated

7 But I do my best to bring out of you this quality of determined understanding of and for those things you are passionate about! You're right, you know . . . .

Restless

Romantic

6 I fell I need improvement here.

Selfish

4 No. It may look so, but, it's for the way I feel best encourages you to excel for you.

Stubborn

6 It's said that the most loyal companions are those who take the most persuasion to change. I cherish the companion whose stubborn ways are to dedicate herself to our companionship and to not change just to be my lover and best friend. Hope it's OK . . . .

If your best friends had to pick four words to describe you, which four from this list would they pick?

Good listener -- Modest - Respectful - articulate

Well, here's the rest of the choices . . .

· GOOD LISTENER

· MODEST

· RESPECTFUL

· AFFECTIONATE

· CARING

· SPONTANEOUS

· PHYSICALLY FIT

· WARM

· OUTGOING

· OPTIMISTIC

· DEPENDABLE

· ROMANTIC

· CREATIVE

· LOYAL

· SPIRITUAL

· KIND

· AMBITIOUS

· ARTICULATE

· RATIONAL

· EASY-GOING

· GENEROUS

· HAPPY

· QUIET

· GENUINE

· INTELLIGENT

· SWEET

· PASSIONATE

· ENERGETIC

· FUNNY

· PERCEPTIVE

Love to have you tell me . . .

We're learning a lot about you! Now, spread the details . . .

I do things according to a plan

5 _ It's good to plan! But, with that plan, to be flexible!!

I take time out for others

I feel unable to deal with things

2 If there are not at least five known solutions to a given issue, find them!!

I love to help others

6 -Qualifier: IF they are honestly seeking . . .

I seek adventure

7 Every second IS adventure . . . What else is it?

I desire sexual activity

7 Our entire design is natural sexual intercourse. This requires our 100% focus in every way to enhance this precious gift and make certain it is mutual in every possible way for full satisfying intercourse and sexual interplay that is all the time, together and apart, and is focused on all the rest of our individual interests and life. Good sex brings good kids. We have the gift of sharing our good intercourse with our world in the form of our mutual care for each other, leading to our being best friends in every way.

I often leave a mess in my room

6 "Mess" is the "lived in" aspect of involvement with life. Leave a perfect room means that that room mean more than the people outside it. Leaving an overly messy room means nearly the same thing . . .

I often carry the conversation to a higher level

6 "Deeper" level, fits better . . .

I get stressed out easily

I often make others feel good

6 Oh my! Well, this is my objective, anyway!!

I am good at analyzing problems

6 -My employment career was always resolving stuff for others

I usually stand up for myself

6 One very astute, dear, confrontational college prof I adore still said that if we fail to stand for who we believe in as "us," then we have failed our purpose. I came to agree with her in time . . .

I am easily discouraged

2 Not if I can at all find a way to see the way through any challenge, or accept it untill the way opens . . .

I can handle a lot of information

6 Maybe. I want to do this better . . .

I waste my time

2 -It seems so. Yet, I learn from all I do . . .

I catch on quickly

4 Yes, but I drag my feet to see if my take is the right one . . .

I usually wait for others to lead the way

5 In one condition, yes: When they need to trust themselves to lead, right or wrong. it's the only way I know to grow . . .

I love order and regularity

7 Well, disorder and chaos may seem NOT orderly, but, they are differently so . . .

I often do nice things for people

6 It's nice to be nice. But, it's not always perceived as "nice."

I get angry easily

My personal religious beliefs are important

2 Religion is man-caused. I am a man who knows that mans' heart is not good to trust much in. so, I am Creator-focused, and man-diffused. Religion? Good for social interplay, not so good for belief . . .

I ask questions in search of information

I think it is important to continually try to improve myself

I care about the physical shape I'm in

I feel better when I am around other people

6 Depends. The others need to be honest and plain in their meaning and impart. Caring in their purpose. Loving in their social gathering.

Keep going to find out who is most compatible for you

Feelings

Happy

6 it's a choice. Why not be?

Sad

2 This choice is one we can take to see who we are in failing, then be remorseful and honest how we hurt others, and be sad for their sadness we cause. Like empathy, somewhat . . .

Anxious

2 A choice, again. It relates to our nutrition, too. Eat healing natural nutrients, think natural healing thought, be natural, healing to others, and one's anxiety passes, naturally . . .

Confident

7 -Yes. But, not so confident in myself, but our Creator, Whose duty he claims, is to sustain us fully. Either he does, or not. My many years' trust in his provision point to His faithful provisions. Confidence? In Him . . .

Hopeful

7 My hope is in Creator . . .

Fearful about future

1 -Why? I know my future is in the One Who cannot fail. Why be fearing, except that my eyes will wander?

Angry

5 _Ha! I'm always angry! With constructive anger! It vitalizes Living!

Calm

6 -Tranquility and calm may be different, but I am calm because it's good to be well . . .

Fortunate

5 Me? Lucky? Nope! I'm provident!! I don't need or want "fortune"!! :-)

Out of control

3 -I want to say "All the time!" Yet, self control is a virtue, so I try . . .

Fulfilled

7 -Retirement and this restless desire to use every moment to the fullest gives me a distinct sense of fulfillment.

Depressed

1 -How?

Unable to cope

1 -When my children's mom dumped me out, this enormous, searing heat developed for four long days and nights around my heart. I was so lost it was not possible to function with any assurance of reason for years. My coping skills were found absent. From that I vowed never again to allow any woman that latitude with my emotions. later, I realized that I need this vulnerablity to be the best companion. it still feels as I'm unable to cope, but I know I can, and will, whatever. The passing of my late wife and a dear lover who moved on taught me this.

Satisfied

7 -Yes.

Misunderstood

4 -It's really a "7." But, in terms of others, I'm claiming "4." neutral. Understanding comes with close companionship. Close companionship comes with dedicated attraction that is a choice more than a consequence or happenstance. Choice to understand is key. Creator understands me, so what else is more important? You, my companion, are critical to me, but not for understanding me. Just caring for me . . .

Plotted against

5 -Ha! Those who hate me have so little understanding of themselves! They plot, but to no avail! Why? I love them back so far as they permit love to invade their space . . .

Share your interests and skills

Attract people with similar lifestyle

Creating romance in a relationship

5 -As I'm a man, and fully capable of creating romance, still for me, it takes knowing my mate's desires. When she is reticent about uncovering her sensual desires I'm at a loss to create for her her desired romantic and sensual settings. So, I'll rate myself lower in difference to her . . .

Keeping physically fit

7 -How is it that people cum together for intercourse yet neglect to do everything to be and keep in great health?

Finding and taking on challenging activities

7 As with the above . . .

Watching movies

7 What's not to love with mutually-exciting movies? Including his and hers for both to be aroused with, be entertained with, be deeper together with, and be training together with?

Listening to music

7 The beauty of musical arts!!

Watching TV

1 - Yuk! This mental programmer with its heavy portrayal of commercial and hidden political and disease-causing false 'health" advice is the nemesis of healthy entertainment. Absolutely NO!

Reading

7 -Oh! Yes! Depending . . . "Good" reads uplift. "Bad"? Go figure! I read "Cujo." Then I ripped that copy to tiny shreds. The entire story is about depressive people making depressive choices and fate assisting them in every turn. I vowed no one else would read such drivel from that copy. No one did.

Parties

5 Love the Right parties!! Not time wasting ones . . .

Dining out

7 My lover friend almost begged my company to exquisite, boutique eateries and quaint movie houses showing thought-provoking Indie presentations. Her relative wealth made me uncomfortable as she picked up the tab. I shared my discumfort and her answer makes perfect sense - "Claude, I desire your company." What better way to say "You matter to me!"?

Traveling

7 -Ditto the response above.

Shopping

7 -Another "7"

Family

7 This should have option for "100." :-))

Talking with friends

Religious Community

2 Religion is an entertainment modus. As such, it's OK for moral interests, but not moral values. Religion is man-formed and cannot conform to Creator's standards of sexual companionship, as all religion has to conform to government control. To see this factor, consider whose laws religion kows to. yes, government. There is no separation between these two, so I bow to no religion.

Religious Faith

2 Ditto above.

Conversation

7 So long this is informative rather than make small talk, yes, it's key to companionship in every way, with all the people in a given couple's circles.

Hosting/Entertaining

7 -Hospitality is the core of romance. One knows the lover best when lovers love and value the spouse and share their love in every way that honors and respects all. Companionship is a form of hospitality, so learning and experiencing this with others in intimate and more casual settings brings this into companionship.

Church Involvement

4 -Neutral As for religion above

Create the long lasting relationship you've always wanted

How well does each of the following describe you?

I try to accommodate the other person's position

7 It's all about this . . .

I try to understand the other person

I try to be respectful of all opinions different from my own

7 -In social gathering, it's polite to accept vast differences. In companionship, it's fine to have opposing views on vital issues that are in agreement in principle, and fully disclosed before the choice to be companions together. This part of cuming together, and I misspell on purpose, is key to the satisfying sexual union. Time, honest, deep, caring revelation opens the ways to know differences, but best, dedicated lovers who are friends know that under all differences there is abiding faith in the greatness each has, so all differences are attributes, rather than barriers.

I try to resolve conflict well

5 -Resolving conflict is at best equally divided between all companions. I see it as mutually shared, so each companion's duty is to initiate interest, but wait for equal interest to make resolution. I do not believe compromise is a good answer. It causes both to feel at loss. Rather, shelve insoluble differences that can be comfortably shelved and in time good companions' minds and hearts find the resolution.

I am looking for a long-term relationship that will ultimately lead to marriage

2 -Marriage is political, religious, and causes the worst divorce rate possible. Better? Yes! As one creates an idea into a successful enterprise, the plan that success is built upon is the opposite of marriage. marriage makes assumptions that are set in stainless steel. marriage is based on the every changing mores of emotional political and religious and community systems of others whose concepts of individual, unique companionship is usually at odds.

Rather, create companionship with caringly developed mutual intimate experiences and deep concerns and those fears that haunt and now are released to be fully shared by ones companion, too. Form preliminary companionship expectations. Hammer out intimate needs as healthy forms of mutual satisfaction that together bring the joint enterprise of companionship into successful operations. Form plans that flex and grow, modify and add new dimensions, and mature with grace for both.

When I get romantically involved, I tell my partner just about everything

7 Of course!!!:-))

It is difficult for me to let people get emotionally close to me

7 It used to be hard. Now, it's pleasurable to be deeply loved this way, so long as it's mutual.

A "serious" relationship needs to be exclusive (i.e., monogamous)

-I'm amazed at the political and religious nature of this question!!! It's a wild and erroneous error to assume Creator ordained monogamy, when His Own Word details account after account where loving family companions shared devoted intercourse and all forms of sexual respect together with three and more. So, I naturally answer a 1.

I know I can always count on the people who are closest to me

7 Ha! I know my companion(s)! so, Yes!, I can count on each being just as I know!! Trust? It's the same! I trust the untrustworthy to be untrustworthy! I trust the trustworthy to remain trustworthy!!

Naturally, I know and trust my closest companions!

I don't need to have close relationships to be happy

4 -I shall be neutral! I NEED close companionship to be happiest. To be merely happy? I can do that! It's a choice!

Being monogamous helps build intimacy and trust in a romantic relationship

4 neutral, again. It's obvious with swingers whose deep devotion to life companions they are lovers with who are life companions with other lovers enjoy intimacy that strengthens each couple's companionship immensely. I care nothing about the political and religious systems that demand monogamy. They are not interested in individual people!!

In fact, being dedicated and selflessly caring for one's companion will include intimacy apart with other dedicated lovers, but always only in full, free, mutual agreement. I've watched marital jealousy shred my own companionship, so it's a no-brainer to release jealousy to fly off with someone else. Broken homes result from stainless steel marriage.

People often let you down if you depend on them

2. Not when they share honest, unreserved, fully free and welcome sex and trust that is jealousy-free. Companionship built on the enterprise planning scope as above forego all this trivial half-hearted relationship stuff. It's critical to share intercourse as a means to understand each other; it's not critical to share intercourse just to have sex together. Honest, respectful intercourse promotes companionship and full trust when it is focused on the satisfaction and health of the other lover(s).

It's important for me to have close friends in my life

Being exclusive (i.e., monogamous) is one of benefits of being in a successful relationship

1 - Not so. The dedication to one's companion(s) constitutes the one and only relationship history we take to our grave. Being dedicated in every way to the lasting benefit of our beloved one(s) is all we need to form that 'lifetime scrapbook" of dear family companionship memories. NOT monogamy and all other religious, political and social stigmas for family companionships. . . .

I sometimes find it difficult to trust people I get romantically involved with

1 It's friendship that romance is best built on and in. I limit my romance to dearest friends. I "know" my romantic friends. Otherwise, they are not romantic to me. . .

I find it easy to get emotionally close to people

7 It's one of the ways I am. always was. I like it, too!!:-))

My partner's dependability

My partner's sex appeal

6 -Hmmmm . . . what's the reason to develop companionship apart from full arousal? Otherwise, a power pole with a nice hole is a good substitute!! :-)

My partner's physical appearance

6 We could go for lower. Butt, why? If she's plain and natural, she's beautiful and irresistible!

Enjoying the way I feel around my partner

Our sexual compatibility

The friendship between me and my partner

Enjoying physical closeness with my partner

Being able to spend as much time as possible with my partner

6 -Companions need individual development encouragement and time. Even when they choose to live apart, it's in mutual respect that each encourages the other(s) to be all they can be, individually. Life has no guarantees, so being the best "me" each is strengthens the companionship.